When does self-care goes too far…or not enough? Some people become a shell of a person in service of others (mom’s are a large category). Some people fall in love with self-care so much that their personal happiness becomes the chief aim. “I’m just not happy anymore” is a common reason for divorce.
I believe you can do self-care and others-care at the same time. There will be ebbs and flows but I’ve seen many people do this beautifully.
Here’s a couple things I want you to know:
Final Thought…
We often see this self care and care for others as opposite ends of a continuum. Like this.
But they are not opposing forces. You can be low on both or high on both or low in one and high in the other. It makes more of a chart like this.
This is from Adam Grant (NY Times Best-selling author and organizational Psychologist)
You can see that Low self care and low care for others makes you like Homer Simpson. The high care for others and low care for self sometimes feel like they are the best since they are so selfless. But, those people are some of the worst performers because they burn out! Obviously, low care for other and high care for self makes you a jerk and is what so many burned out people are so scared they might become if they do this self-care thing.
Ideally, we are high on both. High care for self and High care for others. This means giving and serving with boundaries.
Are you low in both categories?
Which one is more critically low?
What do you need to add to be high in both?
These are questions for you and are continually good questions for me too!
I wish you lots of happiness, charged batteries, and a positive impact on others!
Have Fun, Be Safe, God Bless,
Jeremy "the tall trainer" Biernat
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